Southern Brother

My brother Jay with me at my wedding.
My brother Jay with me at my wedding.

Today, I want to tell you about a special person. My brother, Jay. After a somewhat troubled youth, Jay grew into an incredible man. Jay was 4 years older than I, the oldest of 4 with 3 younger sisters. Jay loved the outdoors. He loved hunting, fishing, gardening and grilling. It was always a great treat to have his great barbecue with vegetables fresh from his garden. He had a wicked sense of humor.

When we were kids, I remember him tricking me into riding a scary ride at a fair with him. He told me we were in line for a little train ride but when we got to the front of the line it was for the scary ride. He was so embarrassed that I screamed through the whole ride.

My brother “gave me away” at my wedding. My father had died 5 years earlier. When I called to ask him if he would give me away, he said “no.” “What do you mean no?” I asked. He told me, “That isn’t the way to do it in Arkansas, I’ll bring the shotgun!”

Jay died on February 9th, 8 years ago at the age of 42. We will always miss him.

Today’s Lagniappe: Jay’s Lagniappe
(Jay had a lot of great recipes. His barbecue sauce was a closely guarded secret. This recipe is very much “to taste” so use your own judgment.)

Pace Picante Sauce (I use medium heat)
Garlic powder
Salt and pepper
Lime juice from fresh limes

Mash avocados with remaining ingredients to taste.






One response to “Southern Brother”

  1. Kathryn Donovan Avatar
    Kathryn Donovan

    I really enjoyed your story. I remember your brother…he was a character! I didn’t realize he passed away eight years ago…I’m so sorry.

    On a brighter note, you looked beautiful on your wedding day!


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